Get to Know Your New Neighbors
It may be time to consider the best ways to meet and greet your new neighbors. We have been losing our sense of community. The days when all the neighbors on our street were our friends have faded away like old soldiers. Some people don’t even know those who live right next door. We’ve isolated ourselves from others whether by white vinyl fences around middle-income homes or by elaborate walls of concrete and vegetation around upscale homes. This inclination toward isolation has left us a bit inept in the skills of getting to know our new neighbors.
Be Friendly.
What’s that old proverb? “He who would have friends must show himself friendly.” It begins by creating the impression that you are friendly. A smile and a wave send a non-verbal message that you are a pleasant person — the kind most other people might like to get to know.
Be Engaging.
You’ll never get to know your new neighbors unless one of you makes the first move. Why shouldn’t you be the first one to break the silence and say, “Hello, I’m Jim.” (Be careful. This works only if you are Jim. If your name is Bob, it would be better to say, “Hello, I’m Bob.”) You have now engaged. You are making progress.
Be Inquisitive.
Now that you have broken the silence use the opportunity to get to know a little about your new neighbor. Three things are essential to remember at this point.
- Ask questions, but don’t probe. Be kind. This is an introduction, not an inquisition.
- Listen. Don’t succumb to the temptation to dominate the conversation. It’s not about you. It’s about getting to know your new neighbors. Lead the discussion by making it about them. It will create a comfort zone for them in your presence.
- Ask questions, but don’t probe. Yes, we know we have already said that, but it is worth repeating. Be sensitive to that fine line beyond which a new neighbor is not willing to go “on the first date.”
Be Available.
Offer your phone number and email address. Let them know that you are available if they ever need anything from a cup of sugar to help with a pesky problem around the house.
Open the Door to More.
Float the idea of getting together with your spouses for an evening soiree. Keep it simple, like relaxing with some adult beverages on the patio around the spa.
Follow Up.
It’s a long road from “Howdy” to “Mi casa es su casa.” Lasting friendships are built over time. From where you are now to that first gathering around your hot tub might be only a few days or a few weeks.
It’s not that difficult to meet and get to know your new neighbors. All it took was a little effort on your part and the allure of your Hot Spring® spa.
If you don’t have a spa, now is the best time to get one from Maximum Comfort. Not only will your family enjoy it, but you’ll also discover that it is a deal maker when it comes to meeting and getting to know your neighbors.
